Obejectives of “Conscience”a NGO

To reduce the number of couples heading towards divorce due to immaturity or other reasons, by timely & effective counselling and educating them the ill affects of separation, with the help of qualified subject specialists .

Helping them to live together, lead a healthy & happy life with mutual understanding and setting an example to the society.

1. Introduction

India has one of the lowest divorce rates in the world, at about 1.1 per cent. This rate is slowly rising, and more so in the major cities than in the rural areas. According to marriage counselors latest data “There’s been a 100 per cent increase in divorce rates in the past five years alone.” It is increasing at a rate of 40% year on year.

These statistics should be interpreted with caution due to methodological problems involved in divorce demography, however there is generally consensus that divorces are increasing in both India and across the globe. The statistics may not actually tell us much about relationship instability since they might just reflect the fact that divorces are now easier and cheaper to get than in the past when proving fault was required.

However they do raise an interesting question- are divorce rates and family breakdowns linked to cultural and religious factors? Blaming everything on the West is not going to reduce this. Family violence or adultery leading to separation happened in India before globalization too.

Some conservatives pin the blame on the influence of Western culture with its promiscuous sex and liberal attitudes to alternative lifestyles (like half/full nudism). Others see rising divorces as a good thing because it signals women’s empowerment. Whereas in the past social pressure and financial dependence saw troubled marriages persist, now women can afford to separate from their partners.

Some conservatives pin the blame on the influence of Western culture with its promiscuous sex and liberal attitudes to alternative lifestyles (like half/full nudism). Others see rising divorces as a good thing because it signals women’s empowerment. Whereas in the past social pressure and financial dependence saw troubled marriages persist, now women can afford to separate from their partners.

2. Statistics of the Issue :

The following figures will help us to get an idea about the divorce rate in India with respect to global divorce rate.

1. - Sweden – 54.9%
2. - United States – 54.8%
3. - Russia – 43.3%
4. - United Kingdom – 42.6
5. - Germany – 39.4%
6. - United Kingdom – 42.6
7. - Israel – 14.8%
8. - Singapore – 17.2%
9. - Japan – 1.9%
10. - United Kingdom – 42.6
11. - Srilanka – 1.5%
12. - India – 1.1%

Empowerment of women has initiated the dissolution of marriage in urban areas as financially independent educated women are now open to the option of ending the relationship rather than to bear lifelong abuses silently. The campaigns on gender equality are now giving rise to ego clashes between the husband and wife, especially if the wife too is the bread earner of the family.

A survey states that over the past four years the divorce rate in Delhi, the capital city of India has almost doubled and is projected to be 25000 by the year 2020. In 2006, Bangalore, the IT hub of India, recorded 1,246 cases of divorce which were filed in the court which pertains to the IT sector exclusively. It has been estimated Mumbai has shot up to 4,138 in 2007 while cities that are acknowledged for their cultural richness and social values like Kolkata and Chennai, are no less behind. Agro based states like Punjab and Haryana are now seeing an increase of 150% of divorce rate since the last decade. Kerala, known to be the most literate state has experienced an increase of divorce rate by 350% in the last 10 years.

3. Reasons for high divorce rates in India:

Some of the reasons for rising divorce rates in India are listed below: 

Immaturity : Lack of experience of life, independent life , not believing in taking advices of parents/elders etc., leading the couples to a divorce as a quick solution to their incompatibility and not foreseeing the problems which are going to emerge because of this decision of theirs in the days to come.

Staying away from home: Most of them move to cities for work requirements. Big cities or the metros give the advantage of anonymity by which divorced couples can manage to avoid the glares of judgmental family members and friends being away from home.

Casual approach towards Marriage: People today, tend to have a comparatively more casual approach towards marriage and do not work as hard to save it in case of any problems in the relationship.

Stress due to work: In the present days both of them working do not get quality time to spend together. Ambition to do well lead to Stress. Also lack of time for life partners is another important factor leading to increasing divorce rates.

Financial Independence: Women are now at par with men in financial terms and do not feel the need to depend on their husbands for their financial needs. This leads to no compromise on their self respect and Ego and jump for divorce for silly reasons.

Acceptance in the society: The divorce in the society is no more a stigma especially in big cities. This has led to couples being more comfortable with the idea of divorce.

4. Impact on the Society :

The following figures will help us to get an idea about the divorce rate in India with respect to global divorce rate.

1. - Rise in Alcohol & Drug abuse.
2. - Pessimistic thoughts & Fretfulness or restiveness.
3. - Irritability, frustration & anger.
4. - Indifferent behavior & reluctance to communicate with people
5. - Lack of interest in delightful activities
6. - Recurring feelings of death & thoughts of suicide.
7. - Trouble concentrating at work
8. - Children grow in an unstable confused environment affecting their life.
9. - Japan – 1.9%
10. - United Kingdom – 42.6
11. - Srilanka – 1.5%
12. - India – 1.1%

5. Counselling Solutions by Conscience :

1. - Educate
2. - Making them understand repercussion/impact of divorce in the family and society.
3. - What is the guarantee that it will not repeat in the future
4. - Case studies and Audio & Vedio materials for better decision making.
5. - Educating benifts of family life in the long run.
6. - Giving solutions with the help of professionals in this field

6. Rehabilitation Plan :

The skill development will be done based on their capabilities with Prime Minister - National Skill Development Corporation ( NSDC ).

Other Rehabilitation Plan ( Gifts And Kinds ) are given based on donations to the society near feature.

7. Board/Team Members

1. - Shri. Commander V Rama Krishna (Retd), MTech. IIT Kharagpur, 25 years’ experience - President.
2. - Smt. V Radha MSc, M.Phil., teaching professing last 20 years- Vice President
3. - Shri G V Jagannadha Rao MBA, trained at Harvard Business School USA., 25 years’ experience- General Secretory.
4. - Shri G V Anand Rao, prominent worker in the social work organizations - Treasurer.
5. - Smt. K Sakunthala Devi. Prominent worker in women welfare organization- Member.
6. - Shri V Lakshman Rao – Retired Executive Engineer in Coal India - Member
7. - Shri Paidi Srinivas Rao worker in village/ward development-Member

The Role of Conscience :

Commited to facilitate by implementing correct methods to reslove issues of married couples, preventing them from taking the coarse of divorce, ensuring Healthy and Happy indivisuals leading happy family life as these make a great society and a great Nation.